Maltz Maxwell writes that confidence is build upon an experience of success.
When we first begin any undertaking, we are likely to have little confidence, because we have not learned from experience that we can succeed.
It doesn't matter how many times you have failed in the past. What matters is the successful attempt, which should be remembered, reinforced, and dwelled upon.
"HELP YOUR KIDS REMEMBER THEIR SUCCESSES HOWEVER SMALL, AND THEIR CONFIDENCE WILL SOAR."
To many people let failures blot out all good memories. We must look at failure, learn from it, and then dismiss it completely.
"HOW CAN A CHILD WHO GETS YELLED AT EVERY TIME THEY FAIL, NOT VIVIDLY REMEMBER THE FAILURE, THUS DISTROYING THEIR CONFIDENCE."
Dr. Overholser recommends the practice of vividly remembering our past successes and brave moments as an invaluable aid whenever self-confidence is shaken.
Many people shy away from healthy self acceptance because they insist upon identifying themselves with their mistakes. You may have made a mistake but this does not mean that you are a mistake.
"WE CAN HELP OUR CHILDREN WORK THROUGH THEIR FAILURES AND ALSO REMIND THEM OF THEIR SUCCESSES, THEIR CONFIDENCE LEVEL IS UP TO US."